Asking a girl out on a date can be daunting. But with a positive attitude and a little preparation, you’ll soon be wooing the girl—or girls—of your dreams.

To complete this How-To you will need:

A little courage
Some self-assurance
Your best set of clothes

Step 1: Decide where

Decide beforehand where you want to take her, if you’re lucky enough to get the date. To a fancy restaurant? A movie? Something more original? If possible, choose something that appeals to her interests.

Step 2: Look your best

Look your best. You don’t have to be Brad Pitt to get a date, but it will help if you’re well groomed.

Tip: Wear clothes you feel comfortable in. Now is not the time to experiment with a whole new look that may make you feel self-conscious or awkward.

Step 3: Pick your moment

Pick your moment. Asking a girl for a date when she’s rushed or with other people may torpedo your chances. Wait until it’s just you two and you’re not likely to be interrupted.

Step 4: Be yourself

Be yourself. A sincere geek comes across far better than a guy doing a poor imitation of James Bond.

Tip: If you wear cologne, go easy on it: You want to date her, not knock her out.

Step 5: Compliment her

When it’s time to make your move, begin by paying her a compliment. She’ll feel good about herself and look kindly on you. But be sincere—no one likes to be patronized.

Tip: A funny comment can lighten the mood—just make sure it’s not at her expense! Everyone likes someone who can make them laugh.

Step 6: Ask her out

Take the plunge and ask her out. Nervous? Remind yourself that she can only say “yes” or “no.”

Step 7: If she says no

If she says no, don’t take it personally. You’re not attracted to everyone either, right? Plus, her rejection may have nothing to do with you.

Step 8: If she says yes

If she says yes, set a date and time immediately. Now go home and get ready for your date. And whatever you do, don’t be late!

Other Pick Up Advice For Men

Date Description
When it comes to dating, memorable is good. Not the “Yeah, we had lobster” kind of memorable, but the “You wouldn’t believe the amazing night I had!” kind of memorable. Think about it, what sounds more fun, eating pasta at Olive Garden or having a meal by candlelight on that dock over there to the right? Take your time…there’s no hurry…okay, if you chose the candlelit dinner, please read on, otherwise enjoy your evening at Olive Garden. I recommend the linguini.

More Romantic Date Ideas.
So what are some of these “amazing” places to have a romantic dinner? Here are just a few ideas:

* Overlooking the City
Can you think of a spot with views of a beautiful landmark, like a bridge, or a hilltop where you can watch the city lights twinkle as the sun goes down?
* On the Water
The sights and sounds of water always provide a romantic setting, this includes the ocean, lakes, rivers, streams, or a nice waterfall. A note of caution: the beach is a great spot, but the wind can start blowing around sunset and kick sand up into your perfect meal.
* Public Buildings
There are tons of large public buildings with beautiful courtyards, gardens, and side walkways where you can have dinner. Think about museums, libraries, and other places with great architecture that close early. Call ahead to make sure you won’t get ejected by security.
* Rooftop
If you live in the city it may be possible to set up a table on either your rooftop or a friend’s. These are ideal spots because they’re secluded, have nice views, and don’t require the travel that some of the others do.
* On Stage
Dinner on the stage of a nice open air theater is very romantic; something about the open space and architecture I think. If you have one nearby, check to see when it’s not in use and if it’s possible to access the stage after hours.
* Art Gallery
There are tons of small art galleries that would be happy to rent space out for an hour or so after closing. The setting is romantic, there’s no worry about weather, and they will probably have a sound system you can use. Find one you like and ask what it would cost for them to stay a little late one night and work on the books while you eat. You can even offer to bring extra for them!
* Parks, meadows, and other outdoor areas
These are just a few of the romantic places you can choose, use your imagination to think of other spots that provide great views of the sunset while you enjoy each other’s company.

At first blush this may sound like a complicated date, but I promise that it’s a snap to pull off with a little preparation. Let’s start with the basics. You’ll need a small table and chairs – folding ones are good choices if they need to be transported by car, a tablecloth is a must, and I highly recommend breaking out the linen napkins. Carefully pack a set of plates, bowls, glasses, utensils, and whatever else you need in a bag, taking care to protect dishware from chipping or breaking. For a little extra ambiance, consider bringing along some candles (with hurricane candle holders if wind is an issue) and a music player. Don’t forget a bag or two for cleanup, matches for the candles, and a flashlight for getting back to the car. That’s it!

As far as the food is concerned, you know your date a lot better than I do so go with your gut. Choose anything from a home-cooked meal, take-out from a nice restaurant, or even something simple like pizza. You’re thinking “All this work for pizza?!?”, but your date will be so impressed by what you’ve planned that something simple like your their favorite pizza can come off as very charming. Also consider cold dinners like sushi because they’re easy to store and transport. If you decide on a hot meal, one trick for keeping it warm is to put a few bricks in the oven at 250 degrees F for 45 minutes or so, and then wrap them in tin foil and place in a cooler on top of a towel (so they don’t melt through). This will keep anything you put in the cooler warm for up to an hour.

Setting it Up
In a perfect world you’d set everything up in advance, go pick up your date, and return together with the meal. Unfortunately, unless you’re going for the rooftop location, if you were to actually do this I fear that some of your stuff would be missing by the time you got back. Think about setting up the table and chairs ahead of time, leaving a “Back in 10 minutes” note, and then when you arrive having your date close their eyes while you put out the tablecloth and dinnerware. Or you could forgo it and simply have your date close their eyes while you put the entire thing together. Remember that if you’re bringing a hot meal your date will probably be able to smell it from the trunk, so maybe a simple “It’s a surprise” will suffice?

Luck is a part of dating, whatever branch of dating you pursue. If you go for blind dating you are relying on that spark being there when you meet up and go on a date. If you are lucky, you will find that you both enjoy the same things and you can make each other laugh or smile. If you are unlucky, then the whole evening can go like a meeting from Hell. The unfortunate part of this is that being fixed up by a friend means that you cannot be too quick to apportion blame, for fear of souring a good friendship.

The blind date also has pitfalls for the match maker. If you arrange a date for two friends, then you are creating the possibility that one of them will blame you if it goes wrong. It also puts you in an awkward position if a friend comes to you asking specifically that you arrange for them to go out with one of your friends. If that goes badly they can end up not trusting you.

The Advantages of Blind Dating

No-one knows us as well as our friends. They spend time with us and they see things in us that we do not even see ourselves. As tricky as it can be to judge how well two people will get on, it is made immeasurably easier by knowing a few of their quirks, their likes and dislikes, and how they will react to the more outlandish sides of a person’s character. It is hard to ever judge a perfect fit, but few things in this world are 100% perfect, and it makes sense that a friend will be able to judge what will work for you.

At the end of the day, a relationship forming depends on two individuals finding each other’s company pleasant enough to want to make it a more regular occurrence. Such a bond cannot be invented or forced, but if anyone can spot the potential for it to form, it is someone who knows both parties well. The rest of the work is for the couple themselves.

Blind Dating

The premise behind blind dating is that a mutual friend sees two of their friends who are single and available and unlucky in love. They seem to have interests in common and personalities that are – more or less – compatible. None of this guarantees that the couple will hit it off, of course. A relationship needs to have the “X” factor, a little touch of chemistry that makes the conversation flow naturally, makes each joke funny and lets a connection happen without being forced.

The “blind” aspect of the date is that, usually, the individuals will not have met before, or even seen one another, except possibly in photographs. Despite having a friend in common, there is no guarantee that they will get along. If they do get along, however, it works out well for their friends, who get to spend time with two people they like without having to travel as much.

Speed Dating

Here is a list of some of the best romantic date ideas

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10. Moonlight Cruise
Date Description
Moonlight. Nature’s aphrodisiac. Imagine gently drifting upon a glassy lake while you sip wine, eat chocolate, and enjoy the endless beauty of the night sky. Now what if you had a date there too? Pretty great, huh? For this date you’ll be going out on a moonlit ride in a rowboat, replete with candles, blanket, pillows, and maybe even a little cuddling.

9. Chinese Lantern Picnic
Date Description
The idea for this date is to have a night time picnic in a secluded, romantic spot with the soft glow of Chinese paper lanterns and candlelight. This is one of those unique date ideas that, if done well, won’t ever be forgotten by your date. A quiet picnic is also the perfect opportunity for two people to learn about each other. At first glance the idea may sound complicated, but read along and you’ll see that it’s actually very quick and easy.

8. Romantic Puzzle
Date Description
Instead of doing a generic puzzle of the ocean or a landscape, why not put together one of you and your date? You can easily have a custom puzzle made in a variety of sizes and piece counts – all you need is a digital photo with decent resolution. The size you choose depends on how much you like puzzles; a 250-piece puzzle will probably take a few hours, but you can try 100 pieces for some quick fun or 500 for puzzle pros. If you can’t find the right picture then this is a good opportunity to snap a few, or for newer relationships how about a photo of somewhere you’ve been together or talked about going? I added a few companies that make custom puzzles to the Links section and I’m sure you can find a bunch more with a quick search. They all generally operate the same way, you’ll upload an image that is scaled to the size of the final output (or they will crop and re-size it for a fee) and they’ll send the puzzle out to you a little while later. It’s just that easy!

7. A Day at the Spa
Date Description
Do you like to get wrapped, scrubbed, oiled, exfoliated, and massaged until you’re just a lump of oh-so-soft flesh? Then read on, because this date is for you! Spending an afternoon being pampered is a nice way to get comfortable with your date as you enjoy the finer things in life. And it doesn’t have to break the bank! (not completely)

6. I Know You
Date Description
Do you know your date? No, I mean do you really know them? Have you been paying attention? Have you picked up on their interests and tastes, their hopes and dreams? The things they’ve always wanted to do and the things they say they want to do but really don’t? Do you remember the time they said “I’ve always thought that would be fun!” but never really got around to it? Well then this is your time to shine! This is when you knock their socks off by surprising them not only with a date they want but a date they don’t know you know they want! Got it? Okay, let’s go!

5. Stargazing
Date Description
If done right, stargazing can be an amazing date! Think about it, the scenery’s beautiful, no one else around, and you’re lying next to each other in the darkness, looking up at the sky. Mix in cuddling under a blanket, and sipping wine or eating chocolate, and this might be an okay night after all.

4. Surprise Massage
Date Description
This is a great idea for couples who are on fairly intimate terms, but probably not something you want to pull out on a second or third date. That is unless you don’t want a third or fourth. The basic idea is to invite your date over for something boring, like a movie, and then surprise them with a candlelit massage, nice music, and maybe even strawberries, chocolate, or champagne!

3. Cozy Fire under the Stars
Date Description
Imagine cuddling with your date next to crackling fire while you roast marshmallows and chat under the open night sky. Afterward you might even take a moonlit walk along the beach – the potential for romance is mind-boggling!

2. 43 Kisses
Date Description
You’re going to learn all about kissing on this date; new techniques, unusual kisses, and what gets the two of you revved-up! I guarantee you’ll discover some likes and dislikes you never knew existed! Plus, can you think of anything you’d rather spend the afternoon practicing? (don’t answer that)

And the most voted Romantic Date Idea is :

1. A Dinner to Remember
Date Description
When it comes to dating, memorable is good. Not the “Yeah, we had lobster” kind of memorable, but the “You wouldn’t believe the amazing night I had!” kind of memorable. Think about it, what sounds more fun, eating pasta at Olive Garden or having a meal by candlelight on that dock over there to the right? Take your time…there’s no hurry…okay, if you chose the candlelit dinner, please read on, otherwise enjoy your evening at Olive Garden. I recommend the linguini.

More Romantic Date Ideas

Here is a nice little fun video from YouTube called : 

How to Know if a Shy Girl Likes You

Or Five Basic Dating Tips for the Average Guy Going Out with a Woman Friend
Here are five basic dating tips for the average guy going out with a woman friend. These are basic ideas, that can be applied to almost any dating situation. They are tips that work well for the blind date, and equally
as well for dating someone whom you have know for a while. Each is simple, each is very basic.

Remember that nothing replaces being yourself, and being honest in dating. Anyone can make a good first impression with only their own wits and charms, but by using these five basic dating tips, you can upgrade your chances to make that good first impression with any woman.

1. The Name of the Game

Use her name often. Trying to establish intimacy and trust from a woman is not easily done. Nothing you say or do to be charming and witty can out weigh the powerful effect that using her name in conversation will have. Mutual trust and admiration are established by the use of a person’s own name, there is nothing we carry that is more personal or shared more guardedly. If you use her name a lot in conversing she will feel more and more appreciated for being with you. Using it also makes her feel more like she is talking to an old friend rather than two strangers. Introducing her to others around you also makes her feel respected and important to you. She becomes a priority, and if in turn she begins using your name in response…then you have made a communication break thru that is a huge step toward greater intimacy.

2. The Eyes and a Smile
Smile and use eye contact. When you first approach any woman you want to meet, you should always smile. She will almost always return the gesture then raise her eyes to meet yours, and in those seconds of quick direct
eye contact she is gaging if your intentions are honest or not. Very often not responding right to this kind of contact is the key mistake men make that turns a woman off to any further pursuit of them. Most women know that men are moving closer to them because of their body being attractive. Very beautiful women get this approach so often, that they automatically ignore men who frown upon approach. No smile, no talking. No eye contact, no interest in you as a man. Women read more from the eyes than any other feature, almost any woman will give a man five more minutes to impress her if his eyes stand out in a dark room. This is a fact, even the ugliest mostly homely looking man willing to smile and look her in the eyes, is halfway home to being her love interest. Always do this and your dating average will increase for sure.

3. The Use of Validation

Fulfill her need for safety and validation. Women want you to listen as they speak their minds in conversation, but not everything she says need be replied to verbally. Laugh at her jokes, legitimately if at all possible. When she says to look at something, do it and if possible compliment her for having such great taste ( or quick eyesight ). If she sees something that unsettles her put yourself between her and the offending presence, and be quiet as she feels safe again. That feeling she will associated with you being protective of her safety. Thus subtle but direct is the communication of this simple but all important message. A man only protects what he considers valuable, and if her safety is of greater value than his own, she knows that his desire for her body is genuine and not an act. This will be ever so important when she actually decides to give you her permission to go inside her naked body later that night. Sex is not an option if she can’t be assured that you will double check the doors are locked, and the lights are off around the castle.

4. Show Her Who you Are with Her
Satisfy her curiosity about your body and mind. Showing her you are honest, or intelligent, or able to sing well, or able to make her laugh…even just able to get the bartender’s attention from across the room with
your talent for whistling loudly – any of these show her your are a man with mental agility. She is thinking all of the time, she has ideas even now about your body, and she hopes you do as well. Never fake being smarter than you really are. If she asks what you are thinking about, the best answer is almost always ‘I wasn’t thinking about anything but how long I could spend watching you enjoy yourself’ – and if she responds with a big smile you might add, ‘Ask me again later and I might have time to think up what I can do for you that would be even more fun, but first you need a night of relaxed and less rushed fun and games’. Let her sit quietly as you stand near her, let her notice if you are being looked at by other women nearby, let her see you are smart enough to say nothing when she is watching you being confident in public with her, and let her press up against your side cautious but firmly then gently put your arm around her in response.

5. Share What You Have with Her

Offering her access to share what is yours freely. Sometimes this is less or more important depending upon the type of woman you are attracted to, but make no mistake – she wants to know you are not stingy, not a penny pincher, and that she has something to gain by being with you as a woman materially and possibly financially. She isn’t likely to continue the night back at your place if you are not gentleman enough to let her see inside your wallet when she asks. She will seize at least one thing as a trophy if given permission. Something small but of value, like a credit card, a fifty dollar bill, or maybe a photo that you have tucked inside the billfold of your teen age daughter or son. If she asks how old your child is, tell her that my kid is an adult like you and probably dating her boyfriend seriously for five years now. Never say anything about her being a year younger than your daughter or son, ask her if she has any pictures of her family? Then let her decide to invite you to see her photo albums at her apartment tonight, and allow things to take their natural course.

I hope these basic dating tips are helpful to the men out there. These same ideas are equally useful for the women reading this, and anyone would be wise to consider them when going out on first or in the early dates of a potential relationship. Good luck finding that special someone to all of you out in the dating world today. You deserve love, and deserve the best in all of your relationships in life.

Dating Advice

There is a natural tendency for people entering a new relationship to try and make themselves appear to be something more than they believe themselves to be. The thought process behind this is fairly rational, up to a point. The attitude that many people have goes something like the following: “He/she cannot possibly be interested in me for who I am. I’m too boring – I need to appear more interesting.”. Although this is a perfectly common rationale, it misses one key point – he or she clearly is interested. Any pretence is unnecessary. If you want to be more interesting, it needs to be a decision made for you. Only then can you fully commit to it and do it properly.

The problem with artifice and pretence is that they require a lot of work in order to be convincing. Honesty really is the best policy and not only because it is morally the right thing, but also because honesty is the natural thing. Telling the truth relies only on remembering what you have done. Lying relies on remembering what you have said, without the concrete memories to back it up. Sooner or later, you forget what lies you have told and you trip yourself up.

Being honest is rewarded with trust. If you tell a lie and are caught out, you lose a bit of trust, and once that goes it almost never returns. If you are later suspected of having done something of which you are truly innocent, your previous lie will work against your partner believing you. So even if it is only because of how it may come back to haunt you, be honest and be yourself.

Dating Advice

When embarking on a dating relationship with someone new, it is important to be aware of the ways that things can go wrong, and to avoid these as far as possible. The unavoidable fact is that many times, a new relationship can follow on the footsteps – for you or for the person you are dating – of a relationship which ended recently. This raises the very difficult question of how to deal with the ex. The end of a relationship invariably generates strong feelings, and it is how these feelings are dealt with that can make or break a new relationship.

For the person who is coming off a broken relationship, the range of possible feelings is extremely variable. It may be that you (or the person you are dating) still have feelings for the ex, especially if it was they that broke it off. The question of whether someone in such a situation should be dating at all is a tough one. It can help in getting over the old relationship, or it can complicate the new one. Additionally, there is the question of bitterness. If a person recently out of a relationship talks in a bitter, even insulting manner about an ex, it will invariably raise the question “Will they talk about me like that if we don’t work?”.

It is important that there is honesty in any relationship. Without it, a relationship will wither and die on the vine. Confront any old feelings before going any further, and you have a chance. Letting them fester will just ruin anything good that you could have.

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